If someone calls you out, they're giving you the opportunity to do better, and to become better. That is a gift. Receive it as such.

To clarify! I don't think calling out in the harsh way is the maximally productive way to give feedback. But I th… https://t.co/7PzSraYC3h

First of all, letting people go on harmful behavior is not praiseworthy. Midrash Genesis Rabbah 54:1 Rabbi Yosi be… https://t.co/T2IgdxUSZO

Maimonides (Hilchot Deot, 6:7) "One who rebukes another... should administer the rebuke in private, speak to the of… https://t.co/lLPPGzEHdp

That said, there are sometimes also dynamics of power and privilege in play, and asking the one harmed or oppressed… https://t.co/QjJEoTjfj0

I think sometimes in the Jewish world we talk too much abt how it's supposed to be done this gentle way & forget th… https://t.co/4snCFZ7UJ9

Jews! Do not use Maimonides as a cudgel if someone is speaking from a place of pain or, yes, anger. And do not dis… https://t.co/em2JOGLlo6

That way others watching see that behavior/speech isn't condoned, and those feeling hurt* by that behavior know tha… https://t.co/RNSvDxEvBL

SO. If you're in a position to give feedback, highest priority in most cases is to do it privately, with the presum… https://t.co/JOxeJJG8WO

The name of the game is not to shame people, but to give them information they need so that they can a) make amends… https://t.co/DiTnXJexZ4

Yelling at people might sometimes feel satisfying if you're hurt, but ultimately our goal is to have more people do… https://t.co/ZTX0IcoCbD

It's really complicated, though, I want to name that. Speaking to someone--esp privately--opens vulnerability beca… https://t.co/LKDLauf6SW

But especially given dynamics of power/privilege/emotional labor, it's also why it's especially important, if we're… https://t.co/9NiIXLHAFQ

White people? Rebuke your fellow white people, don't make POC do all the work. Same straight folks/homophobia, men/… https://t.co/7knQatnqIK

And DO NOT play this game of, "I will only listen to this feedback if it's presented in a way that is maximally com… https://t.co/DmFUOT8qJ6

Tell it to #TheAtlantic. (TNC deleted dissent; 2 bloggers had 0 comments; now all have 0). MT @TheRaDR And DO NOT play game of, "I will only listen to this feedback if it's presented in a way that is maximally comfortable for me." The information is a gift no matter the package.

.@TheRaDR: name some blacks who are less vulnerable than, say, WV whites.